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How To Fight – Part 5: How To Deal With (Strong) Emotions

How To Fight – Part 5: How To Deal With (Strong) Emotions

Many people are afraid. Afraid of their own feelings. Afraid of the feelings of others. They don’t know how to handle their own anger, or sadness, or shame. And they much less know how to maturely handle the feelings of others. If you feel uneasy about some feelings you (or other people) are having at times, all the filthy, queasy emotional stuff, this is for you. 1. Where feelings come from I always thought that feelings are an end of...

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How clinging onto relationships is responsible for destroying them

How clinging onto relationships is responsible for destroying them

Oh, I love paradoxes. This is a nasty one. You see, what keeps intimate relationships alive and thriving is not fear. It’s the joy. Fear of losing one another might be responsible for keeping you together. But if you have more attachment (scarcity-mode – what do I mean by that?) than relaxed joy (abundance mode), you either have one of those horrible zombie-relationships, or one of the partners is going to call quits on the...

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How to fight – Part 4: Practical tools (that stopped a war between two Nigerian tribes)

How to fight – Part 4: Practical tools (that stopped a war between two Nigerian tribes)

I said earlier that 80-90% of conflict resolution is attitude, but for the remaining 10-20%there are also some skills & techniques you need to practice to effectively get others to “re-open their hearts” in tough conflicts. I’m taking this image from two mediation trainers I love and respect, Liv and Kay Larsson. (You can find their awesome book on mediation here). It all lies in your hands… The conflict skills...

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How to fight – Part 3: 1 central mindset shift that’ll make transforming tough conflicts a lot easier

How to fight – Part 3: 1 central mindset shift that’ll make transforming tough conflicts a lot easier

Okay, so we covered the difference between needs and strategies and how to dissolve enemy images. Let’s drill a bit deeper now. The transformation happens, when… To let a transformation in a conflict happen, it’s good to have 3 things. 1) You care about all the needs in the room equally. When it doesn’t matter whether they’re your needs or the needs of the others, whether they’re needs that are easier to...

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How to fight – Part 2: What to do if the other person’s an asshole

How to fight – Part 2: What to do if the other person’s an asshole

When I give trainings, one of the first exercises is asking people: “What are three actions that you can’t empathize with? Where even with all your understanding and love for humanity you say ‘I can’t understand how anybody does this!’?”. They then usually say something like “beating my own children”, “being a Nazi”, “raping someone”, “murdering someone” etc....

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How To Fight – Part 1: How Conflicts Arise

How To Fight – Part 1: How Conflicts Arise

Yesterday I started with telling you why I believe conflict resolution is one of the most underrated but also most important skills when it comes to changing the world. So: How do you do it? How do you solve conflicts in a way that leaves everybody content? No suck-it-up-and-grin, no resentment left over, no breakdown in communications? For that, you first need to understand how conflicts arise. 1. What people want and need are two very...

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Hi, I'm Georg, founder of the social businesses soulbottles and soulwater.
In here I share my experiences and try to teach you what I wished I'd known earlier about changing the world for the better.

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